Getting to Know Thyself

The Foundation of Humility

Happy Monday,

As we continue this journey through A Year of Humility, January’s focus on Reflection invites us to start with the most foundational—and often challenging—question of all: Do I really know myself?

It sounds simple, doesn’t it? But true self-awareness is anything but easy. It requires more than a passing glance in the mirror or a quick acknowledgment of our strengths and weaknesses. To know thyself, as the Oracle of Delphi so famously advised, is to embark on a lifelong quest of introspection, honesty, and growth.

I first encountered the phrase "know thyself" in grad school, where it was often repeated as the number one rule for becoming a good therapist. The idea was clear: how can you help others navigate their struggles if you haven’t explored your own? Self-awareness wasn’t just a suggestion for therapists—it was an imperative, a professional responsibility that shaped every interaction in the counseling room.

And while this advice is essential for therapists, I would argue that it’s just as important for all of us, no matter our profession or calling. Whether we’re navigating relationships, careers, or personal challenges, self-awareness is the cornerstone of resilience, empathy, and growth. It’s also where humility begins.

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The Role of Self-Awareness in Humility

When we think of humility, we often imagine someone who is modest, kind, or unassuming. And while those qualities are certainly part of the picture, humility goes deeper. It’s not about shrinking yourself or denying your worth—it’s about seeing yourself clearly, without illusions or defensiveness.

Self-awareness is the foundation of this kind of humility. It helps us recognize:

• Our strengths: What we bring to the table, what we’re proud of, and where we excel.

• Our limitations: The areas where we need help, growth, or grace.

• Our assumptions: The beliefs we hold about ourselves, others, and the world—some of which may not serve us anymore.

When we’re self-aware, we can approach life with curiosity instead of certainty. We can admit when we’re wrong, listen when others challenge us, and grow from our mistakes. This kind of reflection isn’t always comfortable, but it’s essential for living with integrity and grace.

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How to Start Knowing Yourself

So how do we actually “know thyself”? What does that look like in practice?

Sometimes, self-awareness sneaks up on us in the most unexpected ways. I’ll never forget the time I wore two mismatched shoes—same style, but completely different colors—to work.

It was a busy day, filled with back-to-back client sessions. I was fully in the zone, listening intently, offering insights, and feeling like I was absolutely on top of my game. Eight sessions later—eight!—a client finally pointed out my fashion faux pas.

I looked down, and sure enough: one brown shoe, one black.

No one had mentioned it all day, and I had been completely oblivious. At that moment, I didn’t know whether to laugh, cry, or hand in my “self-aware therapist” card.

While mismatched shoes might not have anything to do with deep self-awareness, the experience was humbling in its own way. It reminded me that even when we think we’re fully present, we’re often missing something—sometimes something as glaring as two different shoes.

Self-awareness isn’t just about catching mismatched shoes, of course. It’s about recognizing the patterns in our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors that shape how we show up in the world. It’s about being curious, paying attention, and asking ourselves questions that go deeper than the surface.

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Why This Matters

Knowing yourself isn’t just an exercise in navel-gazing. It’s a practice that can transform every aspect of your life.

• In relationships, self-awareness helps us communicate authentically, empathize with others, and take responsibility for our actions.

• In challenges, it allows us to identify our triggers and patterns, so we can respond with clarity instead of reactivity.

• In growth, it gives us the courage to face our blind spots and the humility to keep learning.

Humility begins with this kind of honesty. It’s not about tearing yourself down—it’s about seeing yourself fully, with all your strengths and imperfections, and embracing the journey of growth.

An Invitation to Reflect

This week, I invite you to take a moment to pause and ask yourself: How well do I really know myself?

To help, I’ve created a Self-Reflection Check-In with prompts to guide your introspection. It’s not meant to be overwhelming—just a simple way to start exploring your inner world with curiosity and grace.

As the Oracle of Delphi said, “Know thyself.” It’s the first step toward humility, growth, and connection. Let’s take that step together this week.

Happy Monday,
Kirk

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